Realization #1

     This year, I have ditched resolutions (see previous post) for what I call realizations. I've decided to stop making empty promises to myself. Period. 

     It's the first day of a new year, and I am ready. Well, as ready as I'll ever be.

     I'm prepared to ring in 2016 with some serious self-reflection. Although I've always been a superstar at the reflecting piece, it's the follow-up I'm lacking.

     Whoa!  Realization #1 just came to me effortlessly:

     I realize that I let myself down when I fail to follow-up or follow through with things that I know I need to do.  If I want results---physically, mentally, emotionally, artistically, professionally---I must carry my actions through instead of just thinking how great it would be if things were different.

      Sounds easy enough. Until I have to do the actual work.  Luckily for me, I have villages of people surrounding me that will not allow me to be anything less than I am capable of. In fact, the members of said villages usually have way more faith in me than I have in myself.

     Maybe I need some slacker friends and family. Or, maybe, just maybe, I need to listen to the signals and start believing that I am capable and worthy.

     For now, I realize that I need a second cup of coffee first. These suckers are going to wear me out in 2016. And for that, I am grateful.

 
   

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