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You know how there's always that one person who has to make some comment that just pisses you off? It may be face-to-face, in a text, or on your social media page. But, you know you can count on one thing: this person will make a comment. And, you really want to comment back something like: "What exactly do you mean by that?" Or, more often, "What the fuck is your problem?"

Add to the frustration that said person puts "lol" at the end of every passive-aggressive quip. As if that suddenly makes it hilarious.  It reminds me of the quick "just joking!" people throw out after saying something cruel or bigoted. No, you weren't joking. Your intention was to irritate, hurt, or anger.

Well, from now on, it's falling on deaf ears.

I am learning the best defense against this is not to comment at all. Leave their comments floating in the air, a silent refusal to assign importance to the ignorance. Leave them hanging.  Because I believe there are just some people who love to argue everything, just for the sake of hearing themselves speak. I am not one of them.

In fact, I think it's sad and pathetic that they need to be heard so badly, but I will be too busy minding my own issues, nurturing my own thoughts and ideas, and supporting my friends and family to engage in the nonsensical war of words.


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